Posted in Children, Life, Love, Parenting

Same Sex Marriage “Stuff” – Part One

The writer of this post has had a similar path as mine in realizing that being gay is far from a sin. That loving my son who happens to be need not require me to turn my back on God:

I’ve been accused of letting my love for my son blind me to the truth, but nothing could be further from the truth. My love for my son made me study more than ever, it caused me to ask tougher questions and to carefully consider all the evidence before me. I love my son too much to mislead him in the wrong direction if I can help it.

I’ve been accused of disregarding scripture and the Christian faith, but nothing could be further from the truth. My high view of scripture, my determination to not make scripture say more than it says, my commitment to study in a thorough manner, my deep devotion to being a follower of Christ and to do my best to live into the kind of radical love that he demonstrated and calls me to imitate … those things have led and guided me to where I am today regarding same sex marriage. I do not affirm same sex relationships in spite of my faith. I affirm same sex relationships because of my faith.

Grace Rules Weblog

This post is part of the July Synchroblog which invites bloggers to post about “Same Sex Marriage.”

As someone who has a gay son and who owns and facilitates a Private Facebook group for more than 500 moms of LGBT kids I have a LOT to say about same sex marriage “stuff.”

In fact, I have so much to say, I don’t know where to start.

But, I guess a good place to start is with my own story about how I went from believing same sex relationships were sinful to believing that condemning same sex relationships is sinful.

same-sex-marriage

When my son came out he told me he had come to the conclusion that the bible did not condemn loving, committed same sex relationships.

I fully expected to be able to prove him wrong.

I was accustomed to “studying” scripture as I taught women’s bible studies for years. I knew…

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Posted in Children, Hope, Parenting

Ellen DeGeneres Teen Choice Award Speech

Ellen Degeneres
Ellen Degeneres Award Speech

At the Teen Choice Awards on Sunday, Ellen DeGeneres offered an inspiring and emotional speech for LGBTQ youth.

I wanna say also it feels good to be chosen but there was a time in my life that I was not chosen, she said in her acceptance speech for Choice Comedian.I was the opposite of chosen because I was different, and I think I wanna make sure that everyone knows that what makes you different right now, makes you stand out later in life. So you should be proud of being different, proud of who you are . . . The most important thing I wanna say is just really embrace who you are because being unique is very, very important and fitting in is not all that matters. It’s being unique and being who you are.

DeGeneres made history over 18 years ago when she publicly came out in an episode of her TV show, Ellen.

You can read the entire article here.

Because my son is gay Ellen’s speech is important to me. She’s a great role model and comedic talent. I remember the hoopla that “forced” her show to be canceled. At the time I was as shocked as most people were to learn she was gay.

Although I knew my son was gay at the time of Ellen’s show being cancelled, I was in denial and hoped and prayed he could be “cured” or made to see the error of his ways. I was raised in an evangelical fundamentalist home which still considers homosexuality to be a major “sin”. Brainwashing (Christian dogma) is difficult to overcome but with time and educating myself about homosexuality and because I love my son with all my heart, I accept him and support him as he is. I believe he loves me warts and all so it’s only fair.

So maybe my prayers actually changed me and my mindset rather than him. God works in mysterious ways.

Posted in Authors, Books, Children

Dr. Seuss’s Lost Book To Be Released This Week

Theodore Geisel
Theodore Geisel

What Pet Should I Get? (to be released this week) was discovered filed away in Theodore Geisel’s home in 2013. He died in 1991 so it’s amazing the manuscript ever saw the light of day.

Sarah Larson of The New Yorker magazine describes the book as “an amiable stroll through Seussdom that might have seemed extraordinary if Dr. Seuss hadn’t published anything else.” You can read the article on The New Yorker web site.

The July 26, 2015 edition of the New York Times devoted the entire book section front page to the soon-to-be-released book, What Pet Should I Get? So this release is a big deal.

Who hasn’t read any of his books as a child? Parents and teachers have read many of his books inumerable times to their children. Theodore Geisel (aka Dr. Seuss) is as much an American icon as baseball, Apple pie, and fireworks in July. Dr  Seuss books appeal to children and adults for varying reasons which is not easily done as a writer.

My favorite Dr. Seuss book is Oh, The Places You Will Go. I gave one to my oldest son for his high school graduation present. It just seemed so appropriate for that event in his life. And he did go many places. He is a judge in NYC. He tries not to be too judgmental.

If you have a favorite Dr. Seuss book, please feel free to share using the comments section.

Posted in Children, Family and Friends, Hope, Life, Love, Parenting

Love: Just Because He Breathes

Just Because He Breathes

This is the story of a family broken by the loss of their son through suicide. A death preventable if only we as a society could embrace those different from ourselves understanding life is a gift.

Mom and son

My son is gay. I love him for who he is. His life is a gift of indescribable proportions.

Yet I, too, traveled this bumpy road. I can appreciate all too well the quandary and spiritual wresting as one comes to grips with the fact that one's child is gay. I understand how difficult it is to be raised in an evangelical fundamentalist home with its accompanying rigid belief system. My father was a pastor in the American Baptist Convention which is somewhat less conservative than other Baptist groups. Still the church taught homosexuality is a sin. Based on three or four verses from the Bible – several of which reside near verses commanding the stoning of a woman who commits adultery. Obviously, these religious laws are taken out of context. Yet they are applied and forced upon our present-day society in the belief that every word written in the Bible is to be taken literally.

I hope reading this family's story can help even one person realize that love is truly the answer and to offer it freely and unconditionally to our children each and every day of their lives.

 

 

Posted in Children, Family and Friends, Great Quotes, Life

Throwback Thursday

Throwback Thursday:  Way Back

In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future. ~ Alex Haley


Below is a photo of my much beloved grandmother (my father’s mother) holding me when I was a wee little one. Circa 1954-ish.

Grandma and me

My daughter’s grandmother (my mother) holding her when she was truly a wee little one. She was born prematurely and weighed 3.1 lbs at birth. Circa 1985. This was taken while Shari was still in the hospital in the intensive care unit for babies. It was a scary time but she made it. Now she’s 30. Hard to believe.


Grandma and granddaughter

A family bond can feel binding at times but the experiences shared over the years whether good or not so good, in my experience at least, make us who we are. I cannot imagine my life without my grandparents. They had a major impact in my life. The same is true of my parents but there were times as a teen I thought my life might be better without my parents. Fortunately, teen wishes do not come true.

Posted in Children, Health, Life, Parenting

3D Ultrasounds

A Blind Mother Gets A 3D Ultrasound of Her Unborn Baby

Tatiana Guerre is blind so she’d ask her doctor to describe the ultrasound of her baby. Can you imagine being asked to describe something like that? Even more astonishing her doctors created a 3D ultrasound so she could feel the ultrasound. Now that’s amazing!

Who knew there was a 3D ultrasound? Science and medicine continue to amaze with the advances made.

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Mother’s Day

Super Mom
An excellent description of a good woman and wife and mother can be found in Proverbs 31. I believe my mother fits the bill quite well. She’s too humble and would never say she’s done anything special but she has and continues to do so daily.

A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long

She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.

First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking.

She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks.

Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.

When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive.

Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!”

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of- GOD. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!

Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭10-31‬ (MSG)