Posted in Civil Rights, Hope, Justice, LBGTQ, Parenting

Apologetics and Apologies

Should the Church Apologize to the LBGTQ community?

My oldest son is gay.

I suspected he was gay even at an early age. He “came out” to me when he was 15. Even so, I was in denial for a long time. Being raised in the church, there were many, many prayers that God would change my son’s belief. Like many uninformed people, I believed homosexuality was a choice and that God could change this choice if I prayed enough.

Obviously things have changed drastically since then. Major, needed changes have occurred in our society of late. The Supreme Court decision on same-sex marriages has had a huge impact. However, the Church has been left in the dust. “Christians” and conservative churches are disparaging and even hateful in voicing their beliefs on the matter.

John Pavlovitz a “17-year ministry veteran, specializing in trying to live-out the red letters of Jesus” believes the Church should apologize to the LBGTQ community sooner rather than later.

Here is his take on the subject:
Why The Church Should Save Time And Apologize To The LGBTQ Community Now

Posted in Children, Life, Love, Parenting

Same Sex Marriage “Stuff” – Part One

The writer of this post has had a similar path as mine in realizing that being gay is far from a sin. That loving my son who happens to be need not require me to turn my back on God:

I’ve been accused of letting my love for my son blind me to the truth, but nothing could be further from the truth. My love for my son made me study more than ever, it caused me to ask tougher questions and to carefully consider all the evidence before me. I love my son too much to mislead him in the wrong direction if I can help it.

I’ve been accused of disregarding scripture and the Christian faith, but nothing could be further from the truth. My high view of scripture, my determination to not make scripture say more than it says, my commitment to study in a thorough manner, my deep devotion to being a follower of Christ and to do my best to live into the kind of radical love that he demonstrated and calls me to imitate … those things have led and guided me to where I am today regarding same sex marriage. I do not affirm same sex relationships in spite of my faith. I affirm same sex relationships because of my faith.

Grace Rules Weblog

This post is part of the July Synchroblog which invites bloggers to post about “Same Sex Marriage.”

As someone who has a gay son and who owns and facilitates a Private Facebook group for more than 500 moms of LGBT kids I have a LOT to say about same sex marriage “stuff.”

In fact, I have so much to say, I don’t know where to start.

But, I guess a good place to start is with my own story about how I went from believing same sex relationships were sinful to believing that condemning same sex relationships is sinful.


When my son came out he told me he had come to the conclusion that the bible did not condemn loving, committed same sex relationships.

I fully expected to be able to prove him wrong.

I was accustomed to “studying” scripture as I taught women’s bible studies for years. I knew…

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Posted in Children, Hope, Parenting

Ellen DeGeneres Teen Choice Award Speech

Ellen Degeneres
Ellen Degeneres Award Speech

At the Teen Choice Awards on Sunday, Ellen DeGeneres offered an inspiring and emotional speech for LGBTQ youth.

I wanna say also it feels good to be chosen but there was a time in my life that I was not chosen, she said in her acceptance speech for Choice Comedian.I was the opposite of chosen because I was different, and I think I wanna make sure that everyone knows that what makes you different right now, makes you stand out later in life. So you should be proud of being different, proud of who you are . . . The most important thing I wanna say is just really embrace who you are because being unique is very, very important and fitting in is not all that matters. It’s being unique and being who you are.

DeGeneres made history over 18 years ago when she publicly came out in an episode of her TV show, Ellen.

You can read the entire article here.

Because my son is gay Ellen’s speech is important to me. She’s a great role model and comedic talent. I remember the hoopla that “forced” her show to be canceled. At the time I was as shocked as most people were to learn she was gay.

Although I knew my son was gay at the time of Ellen’s show being cancelled, I was in denial and hoped and prayed he could be “cured” or made to see the error of his ways. I was raised in an evangelical fundamentalist home which still considers homosexuality to be a major “sin”. Brainwashing (Christian dogma) is difficult to overcome but with time and educating myself about homosexuality and because I love my son with all my heart, I accept him and support him as he is. I believe he loves me warts and all so it’s only fair.

So maybe my prayers actually changed me and my mindset rather than him. God works in mysterious ways.

Posted in Artists, Creativity, Great Quotes, Learning, Parenting

Fostering Creativity

Spider-Man by Matthew Denton

Creativity is the spice of life. As a mother of an artist and a judge I understand the need to allow kids to think differently even when it seems silly. Providing opportunities for kids to use their talents (gifts) whether it’s math and science-related or drawing or music is important. “Practice makes perfect” is true.

My “gift” is computer support. I know. Boring. But that is probably why the creative process is so intriguing to me. The illustration above was drawn by my son. Early on we knew he had a talent for drawing. We made every effort to provide the tools that he needed and opportunities to hone his skills. He is now a video animator and makes video games and movies.

The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination. – Albert Einstein

Apple’s commentary on people who draw outside the lines and think outside the box:

Here’s to the Crazy Ones.
The misfits.
The rebels.
The troublemakers.
The round pegs in the square holes.
The ones who see things differently.
They’re not fond of rules.
And they have no respect for the status quo.
You can quote them, disagree with them,
disbelieve them, glorify or vilify them.
About the only thing that you can’t do, is ignore them.
Because they change things.
They invent. They imagine. They heal.
They explore. They create. They inspire.
They push the human race forward.
Maybe they have to be crazy.
How else can you stare at an empty canvas and see a work of art?
Or, sit in silence and hear a song that hasn’t been written?
Or, gaze at a red planet and see a laboratory on wheels?
We make tools for these kinds of people.
While some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.
Because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world,
are the ones who do.

Here are a few quotes from folks who couldn’t think outside of a box (or paper bag).

  • “Computers in the future may weigh no more than 1.5 tons.” –Popular Mechanics, forecasting the relentless march of science, 1949
  • “I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.” –Thomas Watson, chairman of IBM, 1943
  • “I have traveled the length and breadth of this country and talked with the best people, and I can assure you that data processing is a fad that won’t last out the year.” –The editor in charge of business books for Prentice Hall, 1957
  • “But what … is it good for?” –Engineer at the Advanced Computing Systems Division of IBM, 1968, commenting on the microchip.
  • “There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home.” –Ken Olson, president, chairman and founder of Digital Equipment Corp., 1977 — bought out by Compaq which was bought out by Hewlett Packard.
  • “This ‘telephone’ has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us.” –Western Union internal memo, 1876.
  • “The wireless music box has no imaginable commercial value. Who would pay for a message sent to nobody in particular?” –David Sarnoff’s associates in response to his urgings for investment in the radio in the 1920s.
  • “The concept is interesting and well-formed, but in order to earn better than a ‘C,’ the idea must be feasible.” –A Yale University management professor in response to Fred Smith’s paper proposing reliable overnight delivery service. (Smith went on to found Federal Express Corp.)
  • “Who the hell wants to hear actors talk?” –H. M. Warner, Warner Brothers, 1927.
Posted in Children, Family and Friends, Hope, Life, Love, Parenting

Love: Just Because He Breathes

Just Because He Breathes

This is the story of a family broken by the loss of their son through suicide. A death preventable if only we as a society could embrace those different from ourselves understanding life is a gift.

Mom and son

My son is gay. I love him for who he is. His life is a gift of indescribable proportions.

Yet I, too, traveled this bumpy road. I can appreciate all too well the quandary and spiritual wresting as one comes to grips with the fact that one's child is gay. I understand how difficult it is to be raised in an evangelical fundamentalist home with its accompanying rigid belief system. My father was a pastor in the American Baptist Convention which is somewhat less conservative than other Baptist groups. Still the church taught homosexuality is a sin. Based on three or four verses from the Bible – several of which reside near verses commanding the stoning of a woman who commits adultery. Obviously, these religious laws are taken out of context. Yet they are applied and forced upon our present-day society in the belief that every word written in the Bible is to be taken literally.

I hope reading this family's story can help even one person realize that love is truly the answer and to offer it freely and unconditionally to our children each and every day of their lives.



Posted in Children, Health, Life, Parenting

3D Ultrasounds

A Blind Mother Gets A 3D Ultrasound of Her Unborn Baby

Tatiana Guerre is blind so she’d ask her doctor to describe the ultrasound of her baby. Can you imagine being asked to describe something like that? Even more astonishing her doctors created a 3D ultrasound so she could feel the ultrasound. Now that’s amazing!

Who knew there was a 3D ultrasound? Science and medicine continue to amaze with the advances made.